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Tinder Questions – 71 Questions to Ask a Girl on Tinder Before Meeting IRL

Here’s a list of questions to ask girls on Tinder before you meet them in person.

Swiping left and right on dating apps is easy and gives you a sense of excitement, but if you have never had a creative block and wondered what to ask a girl on Tinder next, you are either a superhuman or lying.

And I get it, not everyone can come up with a clever opener or a witty comeback on a whim, and that’s exactly where we jump in.

I put together this list to help you make your Tinder match open up and feel comfortable having a conversation with you.

In this article, we’ll cover funny/flirty questions as well as things you should never ask your Tinder match. But if there is one piece of wisdom I could share right now, it would be: ‘Keep it light and funny!’

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15 Questions To Ask To Start a Conversation on Tinder

You can use the first set of questions as ice-breakers. They are light, not too personal, yet they will reveal a lot about your Tinder match.

Do you prefer cats or dogs?

Believe it or not, but this question carries a deeper meaning. It reveals a lot about people’s character and whether they would potentially accept your pet.

What’s your spirit animal?

This is an interesting way to tap into the spiritual side of your Tinder match or use it as a metaphor to find out if they admire or relate to someone or something in particular.

Do you enjoy reading books?

Are they a bookworm, or do they prefer to binge-watch Netflix and scroll through social media? Someone’s reading list or the lack thereof may tell you what they are into currently or in general.

Are you an early bird or a night owl?

The schedule is everything! Dating can get quite hard, especially if you can’t be flexible with your schedule. Imagine getting off work at 5 pm, and they are just starting or you going to bed early and they’re just getting up.

What’s your vibe today?

It’s a nice way to find out how they feel at the moment, but if you repeat the question more often over a longer period, you may get the gist of their general mood and frame of mind.

What song would describe your day today?

Maybe you can bond over a cheesy song or figure out you have the same taste in music.

What is your dream vacation?

Figure out whether you have similar or completely opposite ideas. Maybe you prefer the beach, and they enjoy the annealing of snowy mountain slopes. 

How many countries have you traveled to?

This question will reveal whether they have an adventurous side and whether they’re into traveling at all. As a follow-up, you can also ask them their ideal town to live in or what countries are in their travel bucket list.

What is the first thing you’re going to do when the lockdown ends?

Is your Tinder match anxious to go back to the parties, or has the lockdown changed them, and in what way?

Who is your favorite actress, and why?

It may seem like a lame question, but it can serve as a good conversation starter. Plus, you may get to talk about movies you both like plus your celebrity crush plus figure out if they’re into reality TV shows.

Do you enjoy poetry?

Not all people enjoy or understand poetry. But if you both do or even write some, it may bring you even closer. Romantic verses are perfect for capturing someone’s heart.

Describe your ideal day off

Do they like to snuggle away from the hustle and bustle of city life, or do they prefer to spend a day off in nature? It’s smart to check whether your preferences match.

What part of your culture are you most proud of?

It’s a great way to learn about each other’s cultures, especially if you come from completely different backgrounds with different traditions.

What joke do you never want to hear again?

In my opinion, a healthy sense of humor is the most attractive quality in a person. Unfortunately, a weird or aggressive sense of humor can be a major red flag and deal-breaker.

What is the worst way to start a conversation?

Make sure they are not fans of lousy ice breakers or overly-personal questions. Hopefully, they find them off-putting and inappropriate, as most people do!

What strange food combinations do you enjoy the most?

Discussing strange flavor combos can be a fun topic to develop, as long as they don’t expect you to enjoy their weird food choices. Follow this one up with a question about their favorite international food or favorite restaurant and you may just have a clue for your first offline date!

15 Funny Tinder Questions to Ask a Girl

funny questions to ask a girl

It’s a crazy world out there, and if no red flags popped up by now, maybe you can relax a bit and show her your funny side. The following 15 questions won’t make her fall in love with you, but putting a smile on her face is a hell of a start.

What is your position on the existence of aliens?

Suppose you both believe in Close encounters of the third kind and conspiracy theories – GREAT! But if not, make sure they are not someone hoarding food supplies for a potential apocalypse. 

Team Angelina or Team Jennifer?

The Brangelina-Aniston love triangle revealed complex relationship dynamics. You may open a discussion about serious topics such as marriage, trust, adultery, and kids or stick to the “Hollywood” part of this duo. 

Playstation or Xbox?

There are some big gamers out there, and Playstation vs. Xbox rivalry has already caused some friction between couples, especially those who take gaming seriously. Or perhaps they prefer to play board games instead?

What’s the funniest thing you own?

Get ready to be surprised but also amused. You may hear something ordinary, but stay open-minded, for there are some wild things out there. 

What’s the funniest name you’ve ever heard?

Old-fashioned. or modern – people get carried away when naming their children, and there are some pretty funny ones. So this question is a great ice breaker topic.

What’s the most immature thing you saw someone do?

The perfect way to share a laugh over someone else’s embarrassing moment, especially if your Tinder match is a talented storyteller. 

If life were a cartoon, which cartoon would you like it to be?

Let your imagination run wild. Cartoons are an escape from reality, and while it’s a fun topic, it can also reveal deeper truths about your potential date.

Which cartoon character best describes you?

Cartoon characters often have super quirky personalities. Does your match see themselves as a superhero or a villain? Maybe you will get a sneak peek into their hidden nature.

What’s the best ghost story you’ve ever heard?

We have all heard ghost stories, but most people don’t remember them. If they happen to know a good one, get ready to be spooked. A good side effect of a scary story is that it can turn you on (or give you an idea for your next Halloween costume). 

What era had the worst clothing style?

Maybe you are rocking a retro style from a particular fashion era that isn’t to everyone’s taste, and you don’t want to make any of you feel uncomfortable. 

What era had the worst hairstyles?

Looking back, hairstyle may have been even worse than clothing trends. Fingers crossed, they are not bringing back the infamous mullet.

What’s the funniest Freudian slip you’ve had?

We all do them. It just happens. But some Freudian slips are just gold, and we tell them every chance we get (if they are not too embarrassing). They are great tension diffusers and an opportunity to share a laugh.

Are Samoyeds land clouds or land seals?

Suppose they know what a Samoyed is. Dogs and cute puppies are a topic that can go for hours, especially if both of you are huge dog lovers. 

Putting pineapple on pizza – yes or no?

You may want to skip this question if you know they are of Italian descent. Pineapple on pizza is an absolute deal-breaker for some people. But it’s great if they love it too.

Is the world nearing an apocalypse?

It’s always fun to pick someone’s brain regarding taboo topics like conspiracy theories. It’s also a great way to feel their “pulse” and ensure you are not dealing with a weirdo.

15 Deep Questions to Ask on Tinder

Once you realize you are past the shallow ‘phase’ and this connection shows some potential, this list is food for thought. If you ask me, these are some of the best Tinder questions. Give them something to ponder upon.

Which character should play the lead role in your biography?

This question is a subtle way to ask and learn whether they see themself as the main character in their own life, and if not, why so. 

If you could go back in time, what would be the one thing you’d change?

Regrets – we all have them and wish we did something differently if we could get a second chance. Hopefully, it’s nothing scary or worrisome. 

Are you a spiritual person?

A couple’s spiritual views and practices can make or break a relationship. So it’s better to know their perspective sooner rather than later. 

What is the best present you’ve ever gotten?

The best gift they have ever received will tell you plenty of their expectations. Do they prefer materialistic things, surprises or are they okay with gifts of sentimental value? 

What’s your most treasured memory?

This one is a great question to ask because it will instantly put your match in a good mood! It will also reveal what the most important things in their life are, be it friends, family, their career, or something else. A modified version of this question is about their favorite childhood memory.

Only ask this question if you’re really interested in their life story!

What are you most grateful for?

Already diving deep? Maybe it’s time to learn more about their value system and whether you share similar morals and goals.

What is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to you?

This is a thought-provoking question that may make them look within. Or maybe they have the answer ready. Nonetheless, stay kind because many people have not seen kindness in life.

What do you wish you had more time for in your life?

Are they a workaholic who dreams about a day off? Do they wish they traveled the world or something simpler like spending more quality time with their family?

What do you consider a strange personality trait?

Hopefully, you don’t have that particular one, or you may not even get to a face-to-face date. 

Do you believe in life after death?

Going back to their spiritual views or the lack thereof. People perceive death differently, and you should keep an open mind. 

Does music/art/literature play a role in your life?

If you are an artistic soul, sharing a similar taste in art/music/literature can create a deeper, stronger bond that will keep you connected on a fundamental level.

What advice would you give your younger self?

Life is the greatest teacher of them all, and you may find out about the hardships they have been through and all the lessons they had to learn to get to where they are today.

Do you have any deep regrets?

And if so, would they mind sharing some with you, and what would they change if they could have a do-over?

What would you do with unlimited resources?

Yes! A cliche question, but it usually puts a smile on everyone’s face. It will make them daydream and get their thoughts flowing. Maybe you’ll also learn a thing or two about how they feel regarding money matters. 

What is your relationship with nature?

Are they environmentally conscious, and do they care about preserving nature? Do they even want to spend time in the great outdoors, or could they not care less?

Work hard or play hard?

Do they have a strict work-hard policy focusing on their life goals and future, or do they like to take it easy and enjoy the fruits of life? 

15 Flirty Questions You Can Ask on Tinder

Now that you got to know each other a little better, here’s a list of teasing questions you could use to fire up her fantasy. These are good Tinder questions because they will help you figure out whether you share similar sexual preferences.

What is your biggest turn-on?

Here we go! Time to turn up the heat. Be careful – asking this question may get them thinking you are looking for something more than just a first date. Are you?

What’s your biggest turn-off?

For this one, you may want to remember their answer and stay away from their deal-breakers in case things move to “real life.”

What fantasy would you want to fulfill?

Who knows, maybe you share the same or similar fantasy. Or even better, maybe you have already had the ”experience” and can teach them something.

What would you like for breakfast?

Look at you, already moving fast! Are you planning to invite your Tinder match out for breakfast or cook for them?

Red or white wine?

It’s useful information to have, in case you get invited over and don’t want to show up empty-handed.

Good character or a six-pack?

Some people are more into the physical, and others look for a deeper, more meaningful connection. Either way, it’s a good thing to know about their preferences.

What makes you feel sexy?

It’s fascinating to learn how people perceive themselves and what makes them feel sexy and confident.

What’s an ideal ending to a Tinder date?

Don’t be surprised or disappointed if you hear an answer you didn’t expect or hope for. People may have different expectations than you for a perfect date, and that’s okay.

What are your thoughts on bisexuality?

Some people are more open and flexible with their sexuality, others aren’t. Sexuality and sexual preferences are some of the most important “departments” where you want to match. 

How open are you to new experiences?

Are they more of a conventional type, or are they open to experimentation and trying new things? Not sure if mismatched partners can build a solid relationship.

What’s the sexiest language?

Imagine if you speak the language they find sexy and smooth. Watch out! That’s going to be a next-level dirty talk.

What’s the sexiest accent?

Okay, maybe you two don’t speak any other languages, but your mother tongue can still sound sexy, right?

What’s the sexiest song?

Maybe you can play it if you ever get to the bedroom.

Candle-light dinner or a long walk on the beach?

A great question to tap into their romantic side. Chances are, they will have an even better suggestion. We all do romance differently.

What’s the sexiest personality trait?

Are they sapiosexual, or maybe they don’t care that much about their partner’s intellectual and emotional capacities. You can also ask what they think is the best physical feature a person can have to get really deep into their mind.

Questions You Should NOT Ask On Tinder

You’d want to steer clear of this last set of questions. There are many ways to do it right, but there are also many ways to kill the buzz and fast. You don’t want to ruin your chances at taking things to the next level, right?

Read on to find out which questions to avoid asking on Tinder.

What’s your sign? You look like a … (heart emoji)

Give your Tinder match a real chance without looking at them through the prism of their zodiac sign. On top of it, not everyone likes and believes in astrology.

How can I impress you?

Don’t you think it is better to impress them without even trying? If anything, it is nobler and more rewarding than asking for “instructions.”

Why didn’t you answer right away?

No one, I repeat, no one likes a clingy and over-invested Tinder match, especially if you haven’t even met in person. This is the fastest way to get ghosted.

Would you please go out with me?

Another one no one likes – desperate! You don’t beg for love and attention. The flow is or isn’t there. Forcing things won’t get you anywhere. Plus, what’s the rush, really?

What are you up to?

This is not a conversation starter – it is a  conversation killer. Be more creative if you want to chat them up.

Democrat or Republican?

Are you trying to start a war or a relationship? Unfortunately, some people wouldn’t even hook up with someone from a rival party, so… Avoid it unless you REALLY have to ask. 

What are your grossest habits?

You are just talking right now. You don’t have to get into detail on personal and intimate matters this early on. You may learn something “gross” that will kill the mood instantly.

What are you terrible at?

You are basically trying to make them reveal their biggest flaws. Some people just aren’t that open about their shortcomings and insecurities.

Do you smoke?

Is it that important? Unless they are a total deal-breaker for you, you should be showing more understanding of other people’s habits and practices.

What’s your history with alcohol?

Same as with smoking, people sometimes prefer to keep their drinking habits to themselves. Maybe they have a history of abusing alcohol they are trying to put behind, and talking about it upsets them.

How did your last Tinder date end?

Steer clear of this question because it’s none of your business. Concentrate on your connection and not what they have already left in the past.

Why did your last relationship end

It’s such a sensitive questions that definitely does not belong on Tinder.

I hope browsing this list was good enough to inspire your next conversation and help you meet your Tinder match on a deeper level.

Even though dating has completely changed over the past few years, and you don’t even have to leave your home to socialize, having a good conversation will never get out of fashion.

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