Breaking the ice
Online dating success is all about making the right first impression. Contrary to popular belief, this extends far beyond your profile picture and bio. You need to kill it with your first conversation and first date as well.
In this article, we will take you through how to make a good impression with your conversation. How you start sets the tone for the rest of your future interactions, so you cannot afford to mess it up.
If you have no idea where to start, do not panic. We have your back. Here
“Do you think pineapples belong on a pizza?”
A little controversy never hurt anyone. Stir things up with fun debates like the example given or whatever else you think might interest them.
It could be anything from a Kobe vs. James exchange to a Voldermort vs. Grindelwald friendly fight. Just make sure they are interested before you get started.
“If you had to eat one thing for the rest of your life what would it be?”
You really cannot go wrong with talking about food. I mean, who doesn’t love food, right?
Asking this could also be a sneaky way to find out what they like. That way you can surprise them with it later on should things go well enough for an offline date.
Profile picture observations
“Is that your dog in the photo?”
It could be that you noticed a tattoo, a familiar background or even the cutest dog on the planet. Using this as a starter is an automatic way to get them to talk about something that they are interested in. It also shows that you are attentive which is a great quality to have.
Profile bio observations
“So you love to travel? Where have you been?”
If nothing stands out from the pictures, then take a look at the bio description. What does he/she like? What interests do they have? What do they want? You can get this information and use it to ask great starter questions that will keep the conversation going for a while.
Jokes and puns
Another thing that you can never go wrong with is humor. So take a chance and start your conversation with your future soulmate by telling them a joke. It doesn’t even have to be something you came up with. Just make sure it isn’t something overused.
Fun personal stories
“I saw something on your profile that reminded me of this one time…”
It is a bit of a risky approach as it involves getting very familiar very fast. But with the right crowd, it works like magic. You can tell a story and ask a question about similar experiences they might have had. It is a great way to get over the boring small talk and dive right in.
“You have really beautiful eyes.”
When in doubt always say something nice. The important thing with this starter idea is to avoid being rude or disrespectful. Since it is your first interaction try to stick to G-rated compliments. These make you seem sweet and genuine and will help lower your love interest’s guard.
“If you had a country what would be your national anthem?”
A lot of people love music, and thus this is a topic you should consider exploring from the first interaction. Again, this works as it gets the person to open up about something that they are genuinely interested in.
Love, romance and warm fuzzies
“What is your idea of the perfect date?”
This very direct approach shows that you know what you want from the online dating platform. It is the perfect balance between being direct and being cautious. It will get you further than guys who confess their love in the first text and those who take forever to show interest.
“Did you know…”
If you are a facts nerd and you get the feeling that the person you are interested in is as well, then this will work. If you aren’t sure they will be into it, then stick to something generally fun. You could go for a cool pop culture fact instead of dropping science wisdom on someone who really couldn’t care less.
With these starters, it is highly unlikely that you will not leave a lasting impression.
The good thing about them is that they are not only amazing icebreakers but also a great way to open up the conversation.
They will get you a lot further than a simple “hey” or “how are you.” So get a general idea, give it your twist and watch as they land you your dream date.