Are you finally ready for your happy ending?
Being single is the absolute bomb. You get to go wherever you want, stay out late, flirt with anyone and basically just have unrestricted fun. There’s no worrying about why he didn’t text you back or who that was whose picture he liked on Instagram.
Despite all that fun, it can get lonely though. But don’t worry! You haven’t lost your “strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man” card for occasionally wanting to have someone in your life.
When you are finally ready to get back in the game and fight for your happy ending, there are a few steps you will need to take. It’s not as easy as just waking up one day, wishing for Mr. Right and getting him the next day. But you could always try that just for good measure.
Who are we to limit your fairy godmother’s abilities right? If that doesn’t work, and it probably won’t, here are 8 tips and tricks that definitely will.
How to increase your chances of finding The Right Man
Let “you know who” go
The most important tip when figuring out how to find the right guy is to be the right girl. This means dealing with all your baggage and working to make yourself the very best you that you can be.
One key step here will be letting go of any exes that you still have residual feelings for. These guys keep you from being fully emotionally available and will always be that template upon which you base your unhealthy relationship comparisons. So let him go. Take as much time as you need.
Get away from romcom and fairytale mentality of love
Love is not a fairytale. Single men in real life aren’t those perfect knights in shining armor that you grew up seeing in romcoms. Unfortunately, these views might be etched so deep in your mind that you actually dismiss awesome guys because they didn’t meet those unrealistic expectations. No guy is perfect. That’s why it’s Mr. Right and not Mr. Flawless.
Leave your safe space for a minute; it’s not that bad
You will not meet the man of your dreams stuck in your comfort zone. I mean if it hasn’t worked so far then why should you keep trying the same things? Instead, challenge yourself to try different activities. Expand your social circle. Open yourself up to new ideas and experiences. This increases your chances of meeting new people and maybe your beau is out there with them.
Consider unconventional dating platforms
These days, chance meetings at coffee shops, a friend’s birthday bash or in the library do not happen as often. Things like online dating, speed dating and match making platforms are all the rage.
You might still like things old fashioned but it really doesn’t hurt to throw your hat into one or all of these rings. Remember the getting out of your comfort zone tip? Here is a great place to start.
And you would be surprised to see that it is not so difficult to start a long-distance relationship.
Don’t settle; but don’t be too picky either
Is he right for me?
Well, one way to answer that is actually knowing what you want and what is right for you. Feel free to be as cheesy as possible and come up with an actual physical list if you feel you must. Include what you aren’t willing to compromise on and what you can negotiate when it comes to values and traits. Then whenever that question of whether or not he is right comes up you can just consult your trusty little list.
Actively pursue your interests
If you are into sports and fitness then join a local team or sign up for a gym. If you love art then take a painting class. If it is music that gets you going then why not learn a new instrument?
You are probably wondering right now, “How will this help me find a good man?”
Well, I’m glad you ask. On one hand, it ensures that you are working on improving yourself as an individual and becoming Mrs. Right in your own right. Pun very much intended. It also increases your chances of meeting the right guys who are interested in the same things that you are.
Start your search from home base
Sometimes, this guy that you are looking for happens to be right under your nose. It could be that old childhood friend you always had in the friend zone. Or maybe it is your colleague who keeps dropping hints that you just aren’t picking up. Open your eyes to the potential already around you and you will be surprised.
Stop trying too hard to find him
The greatest secret of how to attract the right man is simply not to try too hard. I know; it is quite the paradox. If you try too hard you might come across as desperate which turns guys off really fast. Trying too hard a..lso frustrates you which means you might end up giving up too early. So relax and learn to take one day at a time.
If you start dating a guy who has never been in a relationship don’t be scared to take the lead!
Your Prince Charming is going nowhere. He will come to you when his time is right.