Dating someone who has never been in a relationship seems super fun and interesting. There just is something about the ego boost you get from the knowledge that you are their first love.
However, it is not a thing to take lightly. Trust me, I’ve been there before.
While it does have its perks, dating a first-timer can be really tricky. To help you out, here are our top tips on how to date a guy who has never had a girlfriend.
I’ll share information on:
- The signs that your love interest has never had a GF before
- What to expect in a situation like this
- How to date him right
10 signs a guy has never been in a relationship before
How to date a man who has never been in a romantic relationship before?
Well, a guy who has never been involved with someone will not be too quick to disclose this information. A lot of them are shy or embarrassed about it. Fortunately, they have very specific tells!
Our clues below help you identify them and put you in the best position to deal with them appropriately.
Here are 10 of the most important signs you’re dating a man who has never been in a relationship:
He’s super into you from day one
Guys who are experiencing romantic love for the first time tend to fixate on their new girlfriends quite a lot.
Excessive texting and calling, small tokens of affection, and tons of attention and daydreaming of a future together are some of the common signs that this is his first relationship.
His lack of experience stops him from seeing the bigger picture. He simply goes all in without realizing that falling in love head over heels in the first week of dating is not the best idea.
He has idealistic views of love
They do not really have a lot of experience when it comes to love further from what they have seen in the movies. You will see this differently, from how he approaches you to where he takes you on the first date.
He gets jealous or possessive
With first relationships come first insecurities, doubts, and loss of confidence. If a guy is acting way too jealous or possessive (or gets into a full self-hate mode), chances are he is afraid of losing his girlfriend to someone “better.”
Unfortunately, he allows himself to be guided by his instincts, and he will resort to calling you on the hour, asking too many questions, and demanding your attention, all in an attempt to measure himself that you are still into him.
He’s slow on making the first move
This is particularly the case with older men who have never had a girlfriend. Insecurity consumes them and makes them unable to approach girls confidently. So you might notice him making eyes at you, but it will be a good long while before he makes a move (if ever at all).
He’s extremely nervous around you
Those who manage to gather enough guts to approach you also stand out. He will probably be overwhelmed with nerves. You might notice a stutter, visible tremors, or even sweat showers. The best thing to do here is to make him feel comfortable. Behind the bundle of nerves is possibly a beautiful soul that may impress you!
He doesn’t know how to read you
Inexperienced guys often have trouble reading girls’ body language, subtle expressions, and even the most obvious cues (this applies to his female friends too).
For example, things may be going great, and you’ve shared your first kisses, and all of a sudden, he starts ghosting you. When a guy is obviously into you, and this happens, there is a big chance he can’t tell whether you like him or not and is afraid to reach out.
In the opposite situation, he will keep nagging you with calls and texts even though you sent the right signal that you’re not attracted to him.
They take more of a “follower” than “leader” position
If you make it to the point where you are his first girlfriend, you will notice that he is not very quick to initiate. He will let you lead with most things, whether picking dates or making simple decisions in the relationship.
His inexperience is turning him into a Yes-Man, thinking that he needs to grant your every wish, do things only you like, or visit places only you choose just to keep you “happy and pleased,” regardless of his personal preferences.
If you stay together long enough, he will probably realize that a relationship is a two-way street.
He’s mostly focused on himself
Guys who’ve never been in a relationship before can quickly fall to the selfish and self-centered side. Sometimes, they don’t really see their girlfriend. They are often unavailable, disappear at the smaller sign of trouble, or don’t care about the needs and pleasures of their partner.
Such guys may leave you to feel unheard or unseen, but it doesn’t always mean they are bad per se. They might be just inexperienced or even afraid of getting hurt. Or they could be so used to their single guys’ life that they don’t even consider a change in their habits is necessary.
He doesn’t understand what it means to be in a relationship
Believe it or not, there are people who haven’t had the chance to witness a conventional relationship and learn from it.
This guy will make you believe romance died – no holding hands, no kisses, no texts good night, no birthday gifts or anniversary dinners.
If you are dating a “first-timer,” and he doesn’t know how to treat you like a real girlfriend, there is a solid chance he just doesn’t know how. There was probably no one to set an example to begin with.
He tries to move things too fast
Men who have never had a girlfriend before also tend to want to move things really fast. It may be because they feel they have a lot of catching up to do. Just be patient and reassure him that your desire to take things slow is not a sign of disinterest.
5 good things about dating a guy who’s never been in a relationship
Absolutely no baggage…
Compared to an experienced guy, an inexperienced person doesn’t have much relationship baggage. They do not have an ex they keep comparing you to. They do not have negative dating experiences that make them either too cautious or self-destructive. They are essentially undamaged as far as love is concerned, which means your relationship is a good clean slate.
You’ll be on a pedestal
There is something about being a person’s first that makes you special. Whether or not it works out, they will always remember and treasure you. And who doesn’t want to be someone’s special person?
A hands-on approach to love; literally
If your partner has been single for years, then they probably feel like they have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to physical displays of affection. They will be super clingy at first, constantly needing hugs, kisses, and cuddles. And you will love every single moment of it.
Very supportive friends and family
If you are dating a guy who is a relationship newbie, it is highly likely that the family and friends will be very involved. You are a literal dream come true for them because they will feel like they no longer have to worry about their daughter, cousin, or best friend finding love. So get ready to be the center of attention at every friends’ game night and family barbeque.
A whirlwind romance
People who are dating for the first time are tired of waiting. They have been taking it slowly all their lives, and having you is their chance to hit the accelerator. It will feel like a whirlwind romance initially, and your job is to make sure you don’t drive right off the cliff. But don’t be too hard on them – live a little too, and love a lot.
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Bad things about dating someone who has never been in a long relationship
That is a big problem with dating people who have never been in a relationship. Their lack of real-world experience leaves them with unrealistic expectations about love and dating. It might be a little hard dealing with them when they find out that love is not like what they see in the movies.
Someone who has never been in love and has no dating experience probably thinks that fighting is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen in a relationship. Dating one means you will either never have any or have really bad ones, none of which are desirable outcomes.
Tips on how to date a guy who has never had a girlfriend
Be open about your feelings
Don’t be blunt or harsh, but be direct!
Guys dating for the first time may seem like they know what they are doing, but that’s not always the case.
It’s a learning process, and if you want to help him get there faster, you may want to lay off the “he-should-know-what-I-want-and-need” attitude for a while because he probably doesn’t.
Communication is the key here! Don’t be afraid to share about your needs or expectations because that’s the only way to have them met.
Take the lead
Here, going 50/50 on leading the relationship will do you no good. You have more experience. So you should take the lead, at least in the beginning. Show them the ropes. Show them how to communicate, fight properly, love genuinely, and make things work. Then you can sit back and let the student become the master.
It will be fun at first, then it will become a nightmare. Not everyone is a natural when it comes to dating.
We all make mistakes, and as a relationship rookie, your guy will probably make tons of them. If you want to make things work, you may want to strap on some patience.
Be tolerant and accepting as your partner goes through this learning curve. It will make you both stronger in the end.
Let them learn from your experiences
Be open about your experiences with past relationships. It is one way to give your partner a chance to understand that not all relationships are the same. It is also a great way to ensure that they get to learn from you.
Notice and appreciate their efforts
Hollywood ruined relationships for many people by setting the bar too high. It doesn’t mean you need to settle for less than you deserve, but it definitely means that you need to show more understanding and appreciation.
An inexperienced guy often needs a boost of confidence and self-esteem. Sometimes, his attempts to make you happy may cause more friction than pleasure, but it’s a big deal to recognize your guy’s efforts and not just point out his flaws.
It will make him feel understood, respected, and appreciated. It’s a total turning point for many guys dating for the first time.
Give them space when they need it
If you are the first girlfriend of an introvert, you might want to learn boundaries.
The shy, withdrawn nature of your guy might be the reason why he hasn’t been in a relationship before. Introverts are easily overwhelmed when in crowded places or hanging out with outgoing people, so they prefer to hide away far from the hustle and bustle.
Dating other guys perhaps taught you that being the life of the party is your best quality, but this guy will appreciate your toned-down side more.
Address his insecurities
Just remember this is his first relationship, so confidence is probably not his strong suit yet! And if that’s the case, better get ready for a “you-don’t-love-me-enough” attitude.
It’s often a deal-breaker for many women when their love and dedication are repeatedly questioned and doubted, but if you are really into this guy and believe that you are on the right track, don’t fear his insecurities.
Instead, help him face his fears and doubts. Help him build his confidence, and in time, he will learn how to love you better.
Don’t brag about your past relationships
Bragging about your gorgeous ex in front of a guy who has never had a girlfriend or had a serious relationship is a surefire way to leave his confidence and your relationship in shambles.
It’s cool that you’ve been on the dating scene for a while, going out with great guys, but there is no reason to rub your wild adventures on his face. They didn’t work out anyway, did they?
When figuring out the game of dating a guy without any relationship experience, you will learn that you, too, have a lot to learn. So give yourself a chance to grow as your partner is growing. Do not be too stuck in your ways or assume that your experience makes you an expert!
The most important thing to remember in these situations is the need to be sensitive. Acknowledge that they lived most of their lives trying to figure out how to deal with being single forever. Then you came along and gave them some hope. So go out of your way to prove to your new guy that relationships, though not perfect, are beautiful and incredibly fulfilling.