When you’re their first…
Dating someone who has never been in a relationship seems like something super fun and interesting. There is something about the ego boost you get from the knowledge that you are their first love. However, it is not something you should take lightly. While it does have its perks, dating a first timer can be really tricky.
To help you out here is a little more information on what to expect and how to do it right. That way, you can build something strong and avoid giving them the baggage they have so successfully avoided.
What should you expect?
Absolutely no baggage…
… At least not relationship baggage. They do not have an ex they keep comparing you to. They do not have negative dating experiences that make them either too cautious or self-destructive. They are essentially undamaged as far as love is concerned and this means your relationship is a proper clean slate.
You’ll be on a pedestal
There is something about being a person’s first that makes you special. Whether or not it works out, he or she will always remember and treasure you. And who doesn’t want to be someone’s special person?
A hands on approach to love; literally
If your partner has been single for years then they probably feel like they have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to physical displays of affection. They will be super clingy at first constantly needing hugs, kisses, and cuddles. And you will love every single moment of it.
Very supportive friends and family
If you are dating a guy who has never had a girl at 30 it is highly likely that the family and friends will be very involved. You are a literal dream come true for them because they will feel like they no longer have to worry about their son, cousin or best friend finding love. So get ready to be the center of attention at every friends’ game night and family barbeque.
A whirlwind romance
People who are dating for the first time are tired of waiting. They have been taking it slow all their lives and having you is their chance to hit the accelerator. It will feel like a whirlwind romance at the beginning. Your job is to make sure you don’t drive right off the cliff. But don’t be too hard on them. Live a little too; and love a lot.
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The bad and the ugly
That is a big problem with dating people who have never been in relationships. Their lack of real world experience leaves them with unrealistic expectations about love and dating. It might be a little hard dealing with them when they find out that love is not like what they see in the movies.
Someone who has never been in love before probably thinks that fighting is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen in a relationship. Dating one means you will either never have any or have really bad ones; none of which are desirable outcomes.
Tips on successfully dating a first timer
It will be fun at first then it will become a nightmare. Be patient as your partner goes through this learning curve. It will make you both stronger in the end.
Take the lead
Here, going 50/50 on leading the relationship will do you no good. You have more experience. So you should take the lead at least in the beginning. Show them the ropes. Show them how to communicate, fight properly, love genuinely and make things work. Then you can sit back and let the student become the master.
Let them learn from your experiences
Be open about your experiences with past relationships. This is one way to give your partner a chance to understand that not all relationships are the same. It is also a great way to ensure that they get to learn from you.
When figuring out how to date a guy who has never had a girlfriend, you will learn that you too have a lot to learn. So give yourself a chance to grow as your partner is growing. Do not be too stuck in your ways or assume that your experience makes you an expert. No, honey; you have a lot to learn too.
The most important thing to remember in these situations is the need to be sensitive. Acknowledge that they lived most of their lives trying to figure out how to deal with being single forever. Then you came along and gave them some hope. So go out of your way to prove to your newbie partner that relationships, though not perfect, are beautiful and incredibly fulfilling.