Starting a relationship long distance IS possible. Here’s how

Start A Relationship Long Distance

The beauty of a rocky start

There is this unfortunate and misguided notion that relationships that begin over long distance do not stand a chance.

That couldn’t possibly be further from the truth!

Starting a long-distance relationship with someone you just met has its set of challenges. However, not being easy does not mean that it is impossible to do it right.

All you have to do is to figure out the best way to get things going!

Here are 11 foolproof tips that will ensure that your relationship gets a healthy start despite the distance challenges.

Starting a relationship long distance

Make your expectations clear

What exactly do you want from your partner if this is to work out for you? It could be anything from daily calls to romantic gestures to keep things hot and exciting.

Making these clear is very important when it comes to starting a long-distance relationship online. It ensures that both you and your partner know how to keep each other happy.

Discuss any insecurities or trust issues

Communication is the first reason why LDRs don’t’ work out.

In addition to talking about what you want, you need to be open about what you are afraid of. LDR relationships can be scary, and you will have a lot of insecurities to work through.

The best way to keep these from escalating and ruining your relationship is by discussing them beforehand. That way, you can reassure each other and know what to avoid for your partner’s sake.

Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable

It can be quite nerve-wracking wearing your heart on your sleeve for someone you just met and don’t even get to see that often.

To be honest, it is a leap of faith that you have to take in the hopes that they feel for you what you feel for them.

The only way to honestly know where they stand is by letting yourself enter that vulnerable space.

Embrace technology as the third member of the relationship

There will always be three parties in every long-distance relationship. Technology plays a major role as it helps bridge the distance between you and your significant other.

Imagine coming home to a video call on AmoLatina’s mobile app after a long day of work. She is there in front of her laptop with no makeup and sweats on. It is almost like they are there with you, and it is all because of technology.

So embrace it and get the most out of the different channels.

Some things are better said over an email

There is something about emails that makes it so much easier to express exactly what we feel and think. Therefore, make sure to switch things up now and then from calls and video chats to modern-day love letters.

With this low-pressure setting, it is easier to open up, which also makes them worth considering as your primary mode of communication as you are starting to get to know each other.

Come up with a schedule

Following a set plan might seem boring, but it saves you a lot of trouble down the line. Figure out things like when to call and specific dates for in-person visits.

That helps to eliminate the uncertainty that, in turn, leads to insecurity.

However, it does not mean that you cannot talk or check in on each other when it isn’t on the schedule.

Channel your inner hopeless romantic

With proximity being off the table as a way to show love, you need to find great alternatives.

One of the best is being super romantic. Find ways to make your partner feel special, and your new long-distance relationship will last.

It could be something simple like cute texts throughout the day or planning a surprise online date. You could also choose to be extra and go for some grand gesture like a surprise physical visit or a care package shipment.

That makes your partner feel loved and thought of, resulting in a very healthy relationship.

Introduce important people in your lives

In any relationship, one of the best ways to legitimize the connection is by introducing each other to friends and family.

Just because you are hundreds or even thousands of miles away, it does not mean that this has to change.

You could start simple by letting your loved ones pop into the video call for a quick hello. With time, you could even have them arrange individual calls.

Discuss your relationship end goal

Where is this going? What is the point?

These are very important questions to ask when starting a relationship where distance is involved. Having a specific end goal makes the entire process bearable.

A great example here is agreeing that one of you will move to where the other is as the relationship grows. You could also decide to set up roots somewhere new together.

Prepare to learn patience the hard way

Psychologically prepare yourself for hard times ahead if you want your newbie long-distance relationship to work.

Patience is particularly important, and you will have to practice this not only on your partner but for the sake of your sanity to survive the circumstances.

Start working on yourself

Do not forget to focus on yourself when starting an LDR. Pick up a new hobby, learn a cool skill, or even go back to school.

Investing in self-progress makes the entire long-distance set up a lot easier to deal with for the sake of the relationship.

Bonus! 6 hard truths about LDRs

It won’t be easy

Long-distance relationships are designed to be difficult. And getting to know someone long distance is hard too.

It doesn’t really matter how often you visit each other, how much time you spend chatting, or even how creative you get with your online date nights.

A time will come when the loneliness will get overwhelming. It could be after you two fight or after seeing them off at the airport. Or it might even be some random weekday afternoon on your way home when you realize they won’t be there waiting.

Fights are inevitable

You are never too far away in a relationship for a fight, and long-distance relationships are the best proof of this.

You will also realize that you and your partner will start fighting over the pettiest of things, from missed calls to unfounded suspicions.

It is important to appreciate these as learning and growth opportunities to gain insight into your partner’s needs. Just remember to fight fair, listen, and accept change.   

You need to compromise

To be honest, sustaining a long-distance relationship can feel like a full-time job.

This is particularly the case if you and your partner are on different time zones. It’s hard scheduling calls and virtual hangouts at really odd hours of the day!

As a result, you will have to compromise a lot on other aspects of your social life. Fortunately, it will all be worth it when you guys get your happy ending.

People will doubt your relationship

People are often very skeptical about long-distance relationships in general. It is going to be a lot worse for you who are starting yours on this note.

Whether it is friends or family, you may not receive the enthusiasm and support that you thought you would have from them.

Don’t let this bring you down. Instead, take it as an opportunity to prove them wrong. It will take a lot of effort, but that “I told you so” vibe you will get when your relationship succeeds will be super satisfying.

Financial planning is important

Long-distance relationships can be quite costly. Consider this – you may have to travel back and forth to see each other, and this will not come cheap.

If you want to do it right, you will also have to invest in fun dating ideas, whether it is playing video games together, taking virtual tours, or even sending each other gifts.

Let’s not even get started on all the phone bills, which only get worse with international relationships.

Making the relationship work is more than just an emotional and time investment. You have to be smart about your finances as well.

Trust is key

If you are starting a relationship long-distance, trust is non-negotiable.

Remember that this is a complete stranger. What’s worse is that they are far away from you, living a life you know very little about.

If you do not want to go mad with doubt and insecurities, you will have to work on trust. This includes communicating your insecurities and intentionally prioritizing the relationship.

Summary

Starting a long-distance relationship online is not in any way an easy task, but it is also not impossible. You just need the right skills and mindset.

These 11 steps will hopefully make your life a lot easier and give you and your partner a good start.

You might end up having a more mature and stable relationship than a couple that lives under the same roof!

And with the six hard truths we have served you, you now know exactly what to expect – both good and bad.

So, do not be too hard on yourselves and your relationship. It will all work out in the end!

For more info about LDRs, head up to Jesse’s blog MyLongDistanceLove.com.

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