The beauty of a rocky start
There is this unfortunate and misguided notion that relationships that begin over long distance do not stand a chance. That couldn’t possibly be further from the truth. Starting with an LDR setup has its does own set of challenges. However, not being easy does not mean that it is impossible to do it right. All you have to do is to figure out the best way to get things going. To help you, here are 8 foolproof tips that will ensure that your relationship gets a healthy start in spite of the distance challenges.
How to start out as an LDR couple
Make your expectations clear
What exactly do you want from your partner if this is to work out for you? It could be anything from daily calls to romantic gestures to keep things hot and interesting. Making these clear is very important at the start of a long distance relationship. It ensures that both you and your partner know how to keep each other happy.
Discuss any insecurities or trust issues
Communication is the first reason why LDR dont’ work out.
In addition to talking about what you want, you need to be open about what you are afraid of. These relationships can be scary, and you will have a lot of insecurities to work through. The best way to keep these from escalating and ruining your relationship is discussing them beforehand. That way you can reassure each other and know what to avoid for your partner’s sake.
Embrace technology as the third member of the relationship
There will always be three parties in every long-distance relationship. Technology plays a major role as it helps bridge the distance between you and your significant other. Imagine coming home to a video call on AmoLatina’s mobile app after a long day of work. She is there in front of her laptop with no makeup and sweats on. It is almost like they are there with you and it is all because of technology. So embrace it and get the most out of the different channels.
Come up with a schedule
This idea might seem boring, but it saves you a lot of trouble down the line. Figure out things like when to call and specific dates for in-person visits. That helps to eliminate uncertainty that in turn leads to insecurity. However, it does not mean that you cannot talk or check in on each other when it isn’t on the schedule.
Channel your inner hopeless romantic
With proximity being off the table as a way to show love, you need to find great alternatives. One of the best is being super romantic. Find ways to make your partner feel special, and your new long distance relationship will last. It could be something simple like cute texts throughout the day or planning a surprise online date. You could also choose to be extra and go for some grand gesture like a surprise physical visit or a care package shipment.
That makes your partner feel loved and thought of resulting in a very healthy relationship.
Discuss your relationship end goal
Where is this going? What is the point? These are very important questions to ask when starting a relationship where distance is involved. Having a specific end goal makes the entire process bearable. A great example here is agreeing that one of you will move to where the other is as the relationship grows. You could also decide to set up roots somewhere new together.
Prepare to learn patience the hard way
Psychologically prepare yourself for hard times ahead if you want your newbie long distance relationship to work. Patience is particularly important, and you will have to practice this not only on your partner but for the sake of your sanity to survive the circumstances.
Start working on yourself
Do not forget to focus on yourself when starting an LDR. Pick up a new hobby, learn a cool skill or even go back to school. Investing in self-progress makes the entire long distance set up a lot easier to deal with for the sake of the relationship.
With these eight tips, genuine love and willingness to work on your relationship, distance should not be an issue. You might end up having a more mature and stable relationship than a couple that lives under the same roof. So do not be too hard on yourselves and your relationship. It will work out.
For more info about LDR, ahead up to Jesse’s blog MyLongDistanceLove.com.