Online dating has a lot to offer if you know how to navigate the potentially troublesome waters. There is, of course, the opportunity to find love after years of being frustrated and unsuccessful in the offline scene. It’s probably the only reason you got signed up in the first place, right?
However, there is a whole lot more in the realm of online dating. What is possibly the most overlooked benefit of internet courtship is the fact that it is a great learning experience. You get to learn about other people, the world in general and most importantly about yourself.
Below are 10 of the most important and unique of life lessons you’ll get from online dating.
1. The art of being patient
Online dating will help make it a lot faster and easier to meet interested singles. However, this does not in any way mean that the services also help fast-track the relationship’s development. As a result, you will have to learn how to be patient.
Patience in online dating means waiting for someone you are interested in to make a move or respond to yours. It means taking your sweet time getting to know the person before moving things offline. It means being patient enough to allow people to earn your trust instead of giving it away freely.
Whatever online dating may bring, there is no denying that the process will make you a master in the art of patience.
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2. Nothing ventured; nothing gained
Another thing you’ll learn is going after what you want. This is especially true if you are a woman using online services to find love. With online dating, there are no definite gender roles. You cannot just sit around and wait for the guys to make the first move. You need to take a risk yourself and express your interest.
Guys also learn the importance of taking the role of an initiator. Remember that you are probably not the only user interested in that girl. So you need to make a move before it is too late.
3. Friendzone is not a death sentence
If statistics are anything to go by, the chances are that the only reason you got onto the online dating bandwagon was to find love. There is nothing wrong with that. However, you have to understand that it doesn’t always work out.
This is one very important lesson you will learn from the experience. The exposure allows you to meet many amazing people. But the sad truth is that not all of them are a right match for you romantically. So why not leave there with a friend? It doesn’t hurt to add a few new buddies to your contact list if you have a connection and like something about them.
4. Not everyone is as good – or bad – as they look on paper
You’re probably familiar with the old saying “Don’t judge a book by its cover.” It also applies to online dating.
Just because someone has a nice job, bombshell photos and an interesting bio description does not mean that they are Prince Charming. And just because her profile includes some goofy and weird photos does not mean that she doesn’t deserve a chance.
One thing you will learn, hopefully not the hard way, is that not everything is as it seems on the internet. If you are interested in someone, then give them a chance. Get to know them a little better before you pass judgment.
5. Physical attraction does not a relationship make
Most online dating services today focus heavily on physical attraction as the basis on which users find matches. You will soon find out that there is more needed than mutual attraction to make a relationship work. There need to be common interests, a similar sense of humor, compatible personalities and so much more.
6. The world is full of shady people
This is one of those lessons that it is best you learn from other people’s experiences than your own. Not everyone who signs up for online dating is there for the right and genuine reasons. Some are after your money. Others are playing the catfish game to mess with your emotions. And some are actually downright emotional players who are already in relationships.
Learning this first hand can be devastating. It is, therefore, better for you to be extra cautious to avoid any disappointments or heartache.
7. Trust is something that needs to be earned
This goes hand in hand with learning about the shadiness that is all over the place. You will have to master some restraint regarding vulnerability and openness when it comes to online dating. This is the only way to ensure that you do not let in people who do not deserve your awesomeness.
8. You do not owe anyone anything
One of the most common rookie mistakes is the belief that you owe something to everyone who is interested in you. You will soon learn that this is total nonsense. Just because someone is interested in you does not mean that you have to be interested in them. Just be real and honest with yourself and remember that your feelings always come first.
9. There are a lot of great people out there
This is an important lesson if you are one of those singles who has pretty much given up on love. After dating people who hurt you took you for granted and basically messed you up you probably lost all faith. However, online dating will help you see that there are actually decent men and women still out there and searching for love, just like you. All you have to do is be smart and patient, and you should be able to see this soon enough.
10. Relationships take work; online or offline
Finally, you will learn that you need to put in a lot of effort to make your relationship work. This applies to both online and offline courtships. You need to dedicate time to get to know each other. You need to spend money to maintain the connection. You also need to be emotionally invested if you want it to work out. So if you think that online dating is the easy way out then you, my dear, are in for a rude shock.
With all this in mind, it is very important to go into the online dating scene with an open mind. You need to be ready and willing to learn as much as possible about yourself and other people out there. It is truly the best way to get the most out of this amazing experience.