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Soul Ties: What It Is, What It Means, and How To Break Them

Soul ties are a big deal.

They’re something that we all might experience once in our lifetimes, and being aware of them will help us to break free from their enchantment.

Our soul is tied to another person inexplicably, usually after sexual intercourse. We then find ourselves ruminating over our connection with this person, regardless of how we feel about them.

You might find that you’re struggling with your feelings towards someone and can’t break free from an unseen attachment you have to them, even if your sexual encounter was months or even years ago.

We’re here to tell you everything you need to know about soul ties, what they are, how to deal with them, and ultimately, how to break them.

 Let’s begin by digging into their meaning in detail.

What is a soul tie?

Let’s start with a definition, shall we? A soul tie is:

“A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse. To the point that when you want to get rid of them from your mind and life, even when you are far away and out of their presence, you still feel as if they are a part of you and a part of you and vice versa.” 

While that certainly sounds ominous, the truth is that soul ties are difficult to deal with. They leave you searching for answers and explanations, while none are forthcoming.

They’re also dangerous. If you experience a soul tie, a former lover can manipulate you and potentially sabotage your future relationships without even knowing it.

If you’ve had an intense spiritual and intimate relationship with someone in the past, and you can’t get them out of your head, your souls might be inexorably tied.

Let’s take at signs of soul ties to watch out for.

How do I know if my soul is tied to another?

Without wanting to sound too technical, you can learn to identify some symptoms of soul ties. These vary from person to person, but they often leave people feeling the same way about a former lover.

 Some of the symptoms of a soul tie include:

  • Obsessive thoughts that occur totally at random – the person might appear in your thoughts while you’re at work or even while you’re with your current partner. It can be difficult to distract yourself from the negative thoughts as they arise.
  • Vivid dreams –  this is when a former lover dominates your dreams, and you wake up at night thinking about them.
  • Hearing your former lover’s voice – the mind plays tricks on us all the time. If you’re experiencing a soul tie, you might not be able to get the other person’s voice out of your mind.

If your subconscious is filled with a previous lover, it can be difficult to move on with your life and give your energy to a new relationship. That is one of the biggest issues with soul ties, and they can make you feel trapped, confused, and overwhelmed.

Let’s look at some of these feelings in more detail.

How does a soul tie make you feel?

When you’re spiritually bound to another person, it can cause a broad spectrum of difficult emotions to arise. After all, everyone sees their former lovers differently, so a lot will depend on how you reflect on your previous relationships.

However, if you’re trapped in a soul tie, you might experience one or more of the following emotions when thinking about a former lover:

  • Helplessness: People who experience soul ties often talk of feelings of helplessness – the notion that regardless of how hard they try, they can’t do anything to change their way of thinking.
  • Despair: Realising they can’t control their thoughts and emotions, people often feel despair and wonder if they will ever be able to put their former lover behind them, once and for all.
  • Frustration: Being soul-tied is frustrating. No matter what your head tells you about your past and current relationships, it seems that your soul has other thoughts.
  • Betrayal: You might also feel a sense of betrayal towards your former lover. Depending on how the fling or relationship ended, you may feel as if they betrayed your trust, and now you can’t move on with your life without thinking about them.

What’s damaging is that many of these feelings emerge at particularly inappropriate times. For instance, people say that they think of a previous lover when making love to their current partner.

Naturally, this often leads to a guilt trip, as people question what on earth is wrong with them and why they can’t seem just to move on.

But the good news about soul ties is that you can actively do something about them. If you’re willing to recognize the connection and take some steps to work through it, you can eventually put the tie behind you.

Let’s look at a tried and trusted way in which you can break a soul tie.

How do you break a soul tie?

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Unfortunately, there’s no quick fix when it comes to breaking a soul tie. After all, your mind, body, and soul are complex organisms, and you need to practice self-love and awareness to break the enchantment you find yourself under!

In many respects, a soul tie is like a curse you will be burdened with until you devise a plan. And the plan must begin with you. You will probably have heard loved ones tell you that you need to move on and stop living in the past, but you will be stuck with the soul tie until you truly believe that you can do something about it.

Here’s how to break a soul tie in four steps:

1] Make an affirmation.

You need to affirm that a soul tie exists between you and a previous lover. Once you’re true to yourself and commit to working at it, the process will become a lot easier. Without an affirmation, you will struggle to achieve the outcome that you desire.

2] Develop an action plan.

If you’re to achieve something difficult in life, you need to develop a plan. The same is true when trying to break a soul tie. You need to think logically and methodically about how you’re going to cease your damaging thoughts and get on with your life.

Central to your action plan should be self-love and mindfulness. You need to try and channel your energy, so you’re focused on the present. Meditating, practicing yoga, and working on your breathing can help center you and re-channel your focus on the present day.

In some cases, you might have to seek the professional help of a counselor or psychiatrist, particularly if your soul tie runs extremely deep. Acknowledging you need help is all part of the process and will enable your action plan to fall into place.

3] Forgive and let go.

Even if you’ve had your heart broken by a previous lover, you have to forgive them. It is for your sake more than theirs. Without forgiveness, you allow space for resentment to grow, which is damaging to your mental health.

Accepting what happened in the past, no matter how horrible it was, is a huge step you must take if you want to break your soul tie. Allowing the connection to fester without positive action means it will only get worse.

Forgiving and letting go will lift the weight of the world from your shoulders, and you will feel much better for it.

4] Break the tie.

Your past is haunting you because you’re letting it. It’s certainly not easy to shut out negative thoughts, particularly where a soul tie is concerned, but it’s crucial if you’re to liberate your mind and break your tie.

You will come to a point in your life where you realize that your past relationships do not define you, and your soul shouldn’t suffer as a result.

As part of this process, remove as many memories and physical attachments as you can that link you to the person. Maybe it’s photos, gifts you received, or items of clothing. Breaking the tie requires a mental and physical clear-out, so if you start afresh and move on with your life, you need to let go of all ‘just in case’ items.

Breaking the tie is breaking free. You will be so glad you took the necessary steps to liberate yourself from the mental torment.

Will you break the tie?

Nobody is saying that breaking a soul tie is easy. Far from it, actually. It will be one of the hardest things you will face in life.

But you owe it to yourself to move on. Life’s too short to be defined by your past, and you need to begin enjoying yourself again.

Hopefully, after reading this post, you will fully understand how a soul tie affects you. Then, armed with our tried and trusted the four-step process, we hope you can break free from the shackles and put your previous lover to bed.

After all, nobody should be defined by their past, and you have so much to look forward to in the future.

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